Talk Therapy, Psychotherapy, Counseling, Coaching

Effective guidance requires a combination of experience and expertise: the ability to listen and connect, while having the skills to use that understanding to help bring about change.

Children & Adolescents Individuals Couples Families Parenting Divorce

Working with children, adolescents and teenagers requires a unique skill set: including patience, kindness and sincerity (children are quick to detect anything less). Gray Matters has always been dominated by its work with children of all ages, and with a huge variety of challenges.

We never hesitate to collaborate with our vast network of specialists (or with your doctors), always placing your child’s well-being first. Gray Matters has longstanding relationships with expert clinicians from a range of different fields, including psychiatrists, learning specialists, nutritionists and many others.

Finding a therapist that suits you is a deeply personal matter – like any relationship, it’s a matter of personal fit. At Gray Matters, our clinicians have extraordinary life experience, and have become specialists with different populations and different issues. By matching individual needs to the right clinician, we ensure therapy is a comfortable and constructive process.

With over 70 years of combined experience, our clinicians are experienced and comfortable using a variety of therapeutic techniques, and able to find the best approach for you. As your therapists, we will do our utmost to help you overcome whatever difficulties you face.

Relationships are difficult. They don’t endure because they are somehow different, or better, but rather because they’re more resilient against adversity. However good a relationships is, it is constantly buffeted by the pressures of daily life, and the influence of our environment.

Couples therapy is not just about resolving conflict. It’s about improving communication, restoring emotional connectedness, and remembering what brought you together. It’s about learning patience and tolerance, insight, and a resilience to the pressures that would thwart this.

Sometimes ending a relationship is easier than maintaining a healthy one. While some relationships do obviously end, we try our best to give you the tools to have happy and fulfilling relationships going forward.

Family therapy lies at the heart of Gray Matters. Frequently, when working with individuals, issues arise that require a more systemic approach. In particular, issues with children sometimes need a broader look at family function. (Aside from our training, sometimes it just takes a different perspective to see the issues that need addressing.)

Frequently, small adjustments in the family dynamic produce profound improvements to the wellbeing of the family. Often these changes are easy to implement, and require very little time. At Gray Matters we are experienced with many of the challenges faced by families, including but not limited to:

Family conflict – between siblings and between parents and children
Issues relating to adolescents and teenagers
Changes to the family with divorce and remarriage, including step-parenting and the integration of step-children
Challenges relating to relocation and change

No-one is born with parenting skills – they are learned by experience. We often begin with the skills we picked-up from our own parents (or a desire to parent differently from them!), and gradually find our own parenting style. But there are times when everyone could use some help – even the best parents can be “too close” to see how things could be improved. Furthermore, as children develop they present different parenting challenges, which can be complicated by other changes in the family.

Parenting, and family life in general, is made infinitely more challenging by issues such as divorce, remarriage, blending families, loss, or having children with special needs. At Gray Matters we bring decades of combined experience to the challenges you face.

The end of a marriage is undoubtedly one of the most difficult emotional experiences we face as adults. But while “divorce” takes place in a legal framework, the real process of separation is an emotional one – a process that often takes years. The echoes of a previous marriage (and divorce) often reverberate into subsequent relationships. Our role is to help you process these issues, so you can form new, healthier relationships.

Parenting issues that caused conflict in an intact marriage often become more problematic in divorce, and become complicated by children having to adapt to different homes with different parenting styles. Our role is to guide you through this process to minimize the stress on your family.

While divorce is a fundamentally emotional process, it is frequently resolved within an adversarial legal system. With already heightened emotions, the result can be catastrophic for the long-term health of your family. At Gray Matters our role is to remain focused on these longer-term issues, and help you restore perspective when you are all least able.

The team at Gray Matters brings a vast range of expertise in therapy modalities and life experiences to fit the needs of each and every individual.

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Christina Eisinger

2021-03-29

I highly recommend Gray Matters as an alternative to traditional treatment for ADHD and Anxiety. The staff are incredibly kind, patient and empathetic. After receiving neurofeedback treatments, we have seen a dramatic reduction in both ADHD and Anxiety symptoms in my son. We found Gray Matters after trying all the traditional treatments with limited success. Neurofeedback has offers us the best result we could have asked for! Thank you Anthony and Alisa!

Eleanor Rowe

2021-02-15

True miracle work is done here. Anthony has not only helped me take on a new approach to mental and physical health, but has helped me in more ways than any person or medical team ever has. I have tried numerous medications, seen 5 Neurologists, naturopaths, acupuncture, chiropractors, you name it. Gray Matters gave me a fundamental piece of information, that being WHY I lived with chronic pain, depression, Anxiety, and ADHD. I have had about 20 sessions (and continuing) and have had significant relief from migraines, about 70% less! Gray Matters has helped me in more ways than I could possibly describe. I highly recommend this group of wonderful people. After MANY years of searching for relief, I feel I have found it in neurofeedback. Thank you Anthony & everyone else that has helped me as a young female in college to live a life without pain and overwhelming anxiety.

A Fennessey

2021-02-07

I am very impressed with Anthony Silver's professionalism, efficiency and empathy. My young son has been receiving therapy here and we have seen overall improvements in speech, motor skills, and anxiety. Anthony Silver created an individualized plan based off of an extremely thorough evaluation. His staff are kind and patient, especially Alisa. We are relieved to have found Gray Matters, especially after having a very disappointing and unprofessional experience at a different office in Ridgefield.

David Ruchman

2021-01-23

I owe a debt of gratitude to Anthony Silver and the dedicated team at Gray Matters. As someone who has struggled with chronic illness, I have sought out many traditional and alternative treatments to alleviate mood symptoms and brain fog. Neurofeedback therapy has been among the most effective. My time at Gray Matters has been a transformative experience and one of the most essential steps on my journey to full recovery. Over the last few months, I’ve seen a meaningful reduction in catastrophic thinking and an increase in mental acuity. Neurofeedback requires persistence and patience. You will begin to notice changes after 10-15 sessions. QEEG Brain Mapping allows you to precisely target your areas of concern. If you stick with the protocol, the rewards are noticeable and lasting. I highly encourage you to contact them.

Robin Pastore

2021-01-06

Very kind and compassionate. Outstanding.

Chris Tait

2020-12-01

Thank you Dr. Silver. Since participating in the program at Gray Matters, I have now been off all my medication and thinking clearly. I was on medication for over 20 years and so happy to be without now and feeling great!

Katie Liljedahl

2020-09-22

When I came to gray matters I was suffering from chronic migraines, anxiety, and debilitating fibromyalgia flare ups. Upon analyzing the images of my brain patterns, it was clear I was in constant fight or flight. The first change I noticed was that I was not having to call my doctor to refill my migraine meds early anymore. Over time they were happening less and less frequently and their severity was drastically decreasing as well. I also found that my nervous system was gaining equilibrium and I was not rapidly swinging from bouts of adrenaline and hyperarousal to fatigue and exhaustion. I began sleeping better and feeling clearer cognitively. The true test of the therapy, however, and what truly compels me to write this testimonial is what it has done for fibromyalgia pain. I have flare ups so bad it feels like three different people are hitting me with a baseball bat relentlessly while my muscles are literally on fire. It is mind blowing pain. After searching high and low for a decade for relief and trying out every single alternative and mainstream treatment known to man, I have found neurofeedback to be the only thing to end a flare up. The therapy also has decreased the frequency of flare ups altogether. Anyone who knows the hell of fibromyalgia can attest that relief is a god send and Gray Matters is like an angel to me in this regard. It has taken time and it is a process but the results are cumulative and real and I am beyond grateful to Anthony and the Gray Matters team.

Sally Jones

2020-07-23

If you are going to do Neurofeedback in the Connecticut area, you want to go here. I tried the place up in Ridgefield and was very displeased by both the owner and the psychologist's lack of care and professionalism. At Gray Matters, I always received quality service and professional support from every staff member.

J E

2019-11-20

I highly recommend. Anthony Silver of Gray Matters shares an extraordinary combination of scientific expertise with compassionate care. I came to Gray Matters for help with long term challenges of depression and anxiety. After an initial in-depth meeting and qEEG scan, a clear treatment plan was designed to address my specific condition. After a few neurofeedback sessions, I felt significant shifts and improvement. I am very thankful to Anthony and Emma, and look forward to continued growth and wellness.